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Jesus is the most inclusive guy you’ve ever met

  Photo by AllGo - An App For Plus Size People on Unsplash "'I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me' (John 14:6 NIV). At first glance, this seems overly exclusive. Jesus is the only way? But on further inspection, we find that Jesus' offer is quite unique from other religions and, in fact, incredibly inclusive." --Louie Giglio Jesus of Nazareth was from a small town, likely learned his father's trade as a carpinter, and lived in relative obscurity until about age 30.  His public ministry lasted about 3 years.  That's about 1000 days, and in that short time, he inspired about 120 folks to become committed followers. Within about 6 months of his death and burial and resurrection, his followers' numbers swelled to well over 3000 committed followers.  In about two generations the mediterrean cities had certainly heard of the Christ, and within a decade his followers earned a new name, "Christiani",

Follower: I Want to Be A Follower When I Grow Up!

Anthony Da Cruz on Unsplash Who wants their kid to be the best follower?  What was the last movie that glorified the follower?  What handsome actor should be cast as the leading role of a supporter? Following is not glam, not valued.  It could be argued that kids born in the 21st century are utter followers, and just want what they want, including Twitter followers, FB likes, comments on all the other social media posts they make.  They want followers.  Oh yeah, and the new iphone as well.  Wait, that's too glitchy.  Glitchy is so, [cue the Jimmy Fallon teen girl accent] "ew". As I thought about categories of this blog, I thought every man is a follower of someone (most likely, and most often, of self) and some things.  Then I realized following come first.  Following is foundational.  No one came out of thin air.  Nothing you have have or are came from a vacuum.  Who you and I are today is a product of the influence of thousands of people and hundreds of thousands of ide

Leader: Barber Recommendation in West Centennial

August "Augie" Rios Runs a Great Barbershop on South Broadway in West Centennial  He is easy to talk to, cuts hair well, and only charges $12 ($10 for my boys). But this isn't a testimonial or ad.  It struck me a few days ago about what is going on in the minds of grandparents. I am not a grandparent, but I hope to be. He was sharing about routines his grandkids follow when they come to his house. They have to wait for him to wake up, greet him and ask and answer questions in Spanish and then they can go do whatever. And his grandkids do it. He was proud and the guy in the chair shared that his grandkids also follow a tradition. Then Augie weighed in again: "It's not like it's for me it's just manners." This is what he values. Manners. Respect. Some traditions are good. Without it, his young grandkids may not speak much Spanish at all.  They wouldn't know how to relate to him or greet him. Traditions can be helpful in creating safety and co

Dad: Fixed vs. Growth Mindset

Photo by  Joanna Keister  on  Unsplash Carol Dweck wrote an amazing book in 2006.  I highly recommend Mindset: The New  Psychology of Success  to all parents. There are several sections on how to use language that promotes the character we would all be proud of: perseverance, growth, and that our kids can accomplish truly great things as they continue to work hard.  I had a chance to really coach my son the other night. He was bragging that a kid in his class didn't know the difference between long A and short A.  My wife and I called him out on the bragging and he started to shut down as we discussed the issue, pushing into why he was bragging about this issue and elevating himself. As we did he muttered something that sounded pretty negative. He sounded like he was maybe even cussing??!!  In the moment we kind of jumped to conclusions that he was being disobedient or lying in response to our questions and probing. He was clearly stuck. And we were getting pretty heated. So, a cou

All Dads, Brothers, and Husbands ARE Leaders and Educators

I'm a lot of things.  I have several roles.  More and more I find myself educating and leading.  I'm glad to do it, troubled by it at times, and really desire to hone my leadership well.  I know I'm a better educator because I'm a dad, but am I getting better at fathering and loving my wife as an educator and leader. We all are kings, whether we admit it or not.  We have a kingdom whether we are 3 or 63.  We lead that kingdom to ruin or plenty.  We have time, money, possessions.  But most of all, we have choices.  Our choices are the most potent leadership we exercise.  Our choices affect others and ourselves and whatever, and whomever we are in charge of.  As teachers, support staff, principals or other leaders, we are very powerful, our choice of words we use (and don't use) is powerful, and in this blog, I will consider being a leader in education and a leader of any kind together.  Because I have many roles, those that involve leadership of nearly any kind will

Fatherhood: Welcome to Anyone who has a Dad or is a Dad.

Fatherhood is huge.    At the risk of sounding like Trump, it really is huge to be and try to be, a great dad.   W hat greater weight, sobriety and inspiration is there than to hold your firstborn child?  To be a father is to be like God in so many ways.  In arguably the most meaningful way a human can be like God.  No one enters life a dad.  We must have been sons first.  So we bring sonship into fatherhood, for better or worse, clueless or overconfident.  Many of us bristle at the thought that we are "just like Dad," and we need interpretation, a roadmap, and advisors more than ever.  We need people and principles.  We desperately need interpretation if we are to father our children with a whole heart, a heart that can meet needs of our children, a heart that fills more than it drinks. Will we stick to pursuing mentorship and fathering?  What is set against fathering our children from a whole heart?  Please comment about the enemies to your own fatherhood, the victories, a

A Son in Man Roles: Intro to the Blog

We all begin as sons.  Here is where we will explore our sonship as it relates to our father, our father figures, and the Father in heaven. How's going with your dad?  If your father is alive, how do you relate to him?  What does your father do with your questions?  What do you do together?  What do you wish you did? As I ask these few questions, and now it's time to do something with what is being stirred up when you think about your father. Are you ticked, sad, "whatever", skeptical you'll ever have a 'warm' connection with your dad?  Has he already passed on? I suppose there is an imprint on your soul and mine.  Some of us have scars we can touch.  Some of us hear hurtful words.  Some of us did have engaged, forgiving and warm fathers. If you are 1 or 2 standard deviations from the norm, you have no really deep scars. The rest of us vacillate from annoyed, bitter, or checked out in our response to, "How's your connection with your dad?"  S

The Enemy is Snow

Katniss stands before a large group of rebels and loyalists. A loyalist holds a gun to her head. She is weary.  She is so sick of the fighting, the constant battle, the relentless tyranny of the leader of the land.  So the people of Panem have divided into two factions: the haves and the have-nots, the oppressors and the oppressed. What the oppressors do is sick and twisted and Katniss has dared to oppose the status quo. So a crafty loyalist fakes sickness and as Katniss leans in to help him, he pulls a gun and is ready to end her life. She welcomes the relief from the struggle and boldly reminds the loyalist that the system is set up to focus on the wrong enemies. President Snow has loyalists pitted against rebels when Snow's selfishness and ego is the real problem.  The enemy is Snow .  Katiniss says it with increasing conviction and I am stirred.  Katniss is a powerful analogy for every one of us. We are fighting the wrong enemy. The enemy is Snow. The enemy is misuse of power.